{{Short description|Type of behaviour}} {{Other uses|Kindness (disambiguation)}} {{missing information|the philosophical and religious aspects of kindness|date=May 2025}} {{Emotion}} [[File: People's Climate March 2017 in Washington DC 35.jpg|thumb|Placard for kindness, at the People's Climate March (2017)]] '''Kindness''' is a type of behavior marked by acts of generosity, consideration, or concern for others, without expecting praise or reward in return. It is a subject of interest in philosophy, religion, and psychology.
It can be directed towards one's self or other people, and is present across multiple different species and cultures.
==History== In English, the word ''kindness'' dates from approximately 1300, though the word's sense evolved to its current meanings in the late 14th century. The word "kindness" comes from the Old English "kyndnes," which is related to "kind," meaning "nature" or "family," or "love". This suggests that kindness was initially seen as a natural quality within one's kin.<ref>{{Cite web|url=https://www.etymonline.com/word/kindness|title = kindness |website=Online Etymology Dictionary}}</ref>
== In ancient philosophy == There are discussions of kindness in both Western and Eastern philosophical traditions.
In “Rhetoric II Chapter 7”, Aristotle defines kindness (''charis'') as “helpfulness towards someone in need”. He focuses his discussion on the needs of the person helped. Kindness is great if it is shown toward “someone in great need, or in need of what is important or what is difficult to get, or someone who has need in a crisis, or if the helper is the only one or first one”. Also, the service should be non-transactional and rendered freely without the consideration of personal gain (“not in return for anything, nor for the advantage of the helper himself”).<ref>Aristotle. (1954). ''Rhetoric'' (W. R. Roberts, Trans.). Modern Library. (Original work published 4th century B.C.E.)</ref><ref>{{cite book | last1=Konstan | first1=David | title=Influences on Peripatetic Rhetoric | chapter=Chapter Fourteen. The Emotion in Aristotle Rhetoric 2.7: Gratitude, Not Kindness | date=2007 | pages=239–250 | doi=10.1163/ej.9789004156685.i-286.56 | isbn=978-90-474-1952-5 }}</ref> He emphasises the importance of action when showing kindness (“service”), but does not comment on feelings of pain or pleasure of the person acting in kindness. In other words, a person may think that it is right and proper to stand by others who are in need, but this does not have to be accompanied by any emotions.<ref>Csikszentmihalyi, M. (2024). Confucius. In E. N. Zalta & U. Nodelman (Eds.), ''The Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy'' (Summer 2024 ed.). Stanford University. https://plato.stanford.edu/archives/sum2024/entries/confucius/</ref><ref>Fortenbaugh, W. W. (2004). ''Aristotle and Theophrastus on the emotions''. The Society for Ancient Greek Philosophy Newsletter. Article 374. https://orb.binghamton.edu/sagp/374</ref> Furthermore, Aristotle seems to hold the view that when acting out of kindness, sympathy goes out to an individual because of the circumstances the individual happens to be in, and not because of who the specific individual happens to be. Kindness is offered for the sake of the beneficiary, whether or not one has an attachment to him. This kind of anonymity in one’s response distinguishes it from friendship - when a person acts out of a specific concern for a particular person.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Sherman | first1=Nancy | title=Aristotle on Friendship and the Shared Life | journal=Philosophy and Phenomenological Research | date=1987 | volume=47 | issue=4 | pages=589–613 | doi=10.2307/2107230 | jstor=2107230 }}</ref>
''Ren'', a central concept of Confucius’ moral philosophy, is interpreted by scholars as shared humanity or kindness for others. The term suggests a deep interconnectedness among people and embodies the belief that each person is part of a wider human community that should be treated with shared kindness. To Confucius, ''ren'' was the foundation from which all human virtue grew. It also starts with kindness towards one's family, as goodwill shown at home will transform into compassion in the community and the world.<ref>Sheposh, R. (2024). ''Ren (Confucianism)''. EBSCO Research Starters. https://www.ebsco.com/research-starters/religion-and-philosophy/ren-confucianism</ref> In “Analects”, Confucius discusses the tension between two key virtues - kindness and righteousness (''yi''). When asked whether hatred should be repaid with kindness, he replied "And what will you repay kindness with? Rather repay hatred with justice, and kindness with kindness."<ref>Confucius. (1997). ''The Analects'' (S. Leys, Trans.). W. W. Norton & Company.</ref> While one should not deliberately seek vengeance out of momentary anger, nor should one conceal resentment over a grudge and repay it with kindness. This suggests that mature morality requires knowing when to apply which virtue.<ref>Foreign Language Teaching and Research Press. (n.d.). ''Ren (Benevolence)''. Key Concepts in Chinese Thought and Culture. http://www.chinesethought.cn/EN/shuyu_show.aspx?shuyu_id=3522</ref> The "Records of Ritual" distinguishes between the domains of these two virtues, suggesting that in regulating one’s household, kindness overrules righteousness, while outside of one’s house, righteousness cuts off kindness.
==In modern philosophy== While some definitions of kindness focus on emotional warmth or good-natured impulses, Immanuel Kant disagreed with the idea that feeling kind was enough to make an action moral.<ref>Johnson, R., & Cureton, A. (2025). Kant’s moral philosophy. In E. N. Zalta & U. Nodelman (Eds.), ''The Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy'' (Winter 2025 ed.). Stanford University. https://plato.stanford.edu/archives/win2025/entries/kant-moral/</ref> Across his works, he distinguishes between pathological love (as inclination) and practical love (from duty). In “Groundwork of the Metaphysics of Morals”, Kant suggests that an act possesses moral worth only when it is practiced as a conscious, rational commitment rather than a fleeting feeling.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Walschots | first1=Michael | title=The Rationality of Love: Benevolence and Complacence in Kant and Hutcheson | journal=Ergo, an Open Access Journal of Philosophy | date=2023 | volume=10 | doi=10.3998/ergo.4670 }}</ref> For Kant, being kind-hearted is different from having a will governed by moral principle. True moral kindness stems from a good will and occurs when you help someone because it is the right thing to do, even when you don't feel like doing it.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Boakye | first1=Anthony Kwaku | title=Kant's Reliance on Reason Rejects the Essence of Sympathy and Empathy in Any Moral Choice | journal=European Journal of Theology and Philosophy | date=2024 | volume=4 | issue=5 | pages=1–5 | doi=10.24018/theology.2024.4.5.147 | doi-access=free }}</ref> In addition, Kant emphasizes that we must treat others always as ends in themselves and never merely as a means to an end. In the context of kindness, this implies that one should not be kind merely to achieve one’s own goals, but rather as a rational recognition of the inherent dignity and value of the other person.<ref>Kerstein, S. (2024). Treating persons as means. In E. N. Zalta & U. Nodelman (Eds.), ''The Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy'' (Summer 2024 ed.). Stanford University. https://plato.stanford.edu/archives/sum2024/entries/persons-means/</ref><ref>{{cite journal | last1=Supriadi | first1=Dedi | last2=Alandira | first2=Palendika | title=Morality in the manuscript Hikayat Prabu Anom Volume 2: A study of Immanuel Kant's deontological ethics | journal=Bahasa Dan Seni: Jurnal Bahasa, Sastra, Seni, Dan Pengajarannya | date=2025 | volume=53 | issue=2 | pages=224–242 | doi=10.17977/2550-0635.1220 | doi-access=free }}</ref>
Friedrich Nietzsche offers a critique of this perspective that kindness is a rational obligation that honors the dignity of all humans. For Nietzsche, kindness is not a neutral or universal good and should therefore be practiced cautiously. He identifies kindness and sympathy as central virtues of a slave-morality that originates among the oppressed and those uncertain of themselves.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Tomkins | first1=Leah | title=Caring leadership as Nietzschean slave morality | journal=Leadership | date=2021 | volume=17 | issue=3 | pages=278–295 | doi=10.1177/1742715020974910 | doi-access=free }}</ref><ref>Nietzsche, F. (2004). Slave and master morality (L. Archie & J. G. Archie, Eds.). In ''Reading for philosophical inquiry'' (Release 0.21). Oklahoma State University Libraries. https://open.library.okstate.edu/introphilosophy/chapter/slave-and-master-morality-by-nietzsche/ (Original work published 1886)</ref> He argued that a morality centered on alleviating all suffering (the idea of ''mitleid'' - pity or compassion or sympathy) is a denial of life. He advocated instead for people to strive towards a master-morality that values excellence and the endeavour to become great and strong by overcoming obstacles and challenges.<ref>Santos, E. (2021, April 20). ''On compassion: A Nietzschean perspective''. Medium. https://medium.com/@edmundos99/on-compassion-a-nietzschean-perspective-8420871415ca</ref> Nietzsche suggests that when kindness is taken to the extreme, it robs our finitude of significance because it fails to recognize the ennobling aspects of suffering. By trying to eliminate pain, kindness may inadvertently stifle the striving and greatness that suffering can produce.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Harris | first1=Daniel I. | title=Compassion and Affirmation in Nietzsche | journal=The Journal of Nietzsche Studies | date=2017 | volume=48 | pages=17–28 | doi=10.5325/jnietstud.48.1.0017 }}</ref>
==In religion== Being kind and doing good to others is a tenet of Islam, and the Quran recommends to practice kindness as a way to attain serenity and tranquillity of the soul. “Surah 2 Al-Baqara, Ayah 263” states that “Kind words and forgiveness are better than charity followed by injury”.<ref>The Quran. (n.d.). ''Surah Al-Baqarah'' (2:263) (Y. Ali, M. Pickthall, & S. International, Trans.). Alim. https://www.alim.org/quran/compare/surah/2/263/</ref> Treating others with kindness is more important than giving money and then reminding others of the favour with hurtful or mocking words, as the latter actions can nullify the reward of the charity.<ref>Verse by Verse Quran Study Circle. (2017, February 10). ''Kind words and forgiveness are better than charity''. https://versebyversequranstudycircle.wordpress.com/2017/02/10/kind-words-and-forgiveness-are-better-than-charity/</ref><ref>Quranic. (2021, July 26). ''Kindness in the Quran''. https://www.getquranic.com/kindness/</ref> Kindness towards parents, spouses, neighbours and orphans are repeatedly mentioned in the Quran, but notably, Islam encourages Muslims to show kindness even towards enemies and oppressors. Prophet Muhammad displayed kindness to his enemies, hoping to heal rifts through compassion and understanding. When his enemies came to the Ka’bah during the conquest of Mecca, he said to his former adversaries, “I say to you as Yusuf said to his brothers: No blame upon you today. Allah will forgive you, for he is the most merciful of the merciful.”<ref>Amin, I. (2023, September 1). ''Kindness: A manifestation of faith in Islam''. MuslimMatters. https://muslimmatters.org/2023/09/01/kindness-a-manifestation-of-faith-in-islam/</ref> In addition to kindness towards people, Islam also teaches one to be kind to animals, as they are also creations of Allah and deserving of care. “Surah Al-An’am, ayah 38” states that “All the creatures that crawl on the earth and those that fly with their wings are communities like yourselves.”<ref>My Islam. (n.d.). ''Kindness in Islam: 10+ Quran verses and 5+ Hadiths on being kind''. https://myislam.org/kindness-in-islam/</ref>
In Hinduism, the practice of kindness is a spiritual necessity rooted in the theological understanding of monism (seeing all life as one). This sense of universal interconnectedness drives the foundational principle of ''ahimsa'' (non-violence), which mandates harmlessness in thought, word, and deed toward all sentient beings, and can be expressed through various ways such as vegetarianism, environmental protection, or caring for the vulnerable. Practicing kindness is also intrinsically tied to the idea of good ''karma'', where selfless acts of ''dana'' (giving) and ''sewa'' (selfless service) serve to purify the soul and accumulate positive merit. By performing these services, an individual fulfills their righteous obligations while undergoing an internal transformation toward spiritual enlightenment.<ref>BBC. (n.d.). ''Hindu social action and concern''. BBC Bitesize. Retrieved April 1, 2026, from https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/guides/zmgx382/revision/5</ref><ref>Rajayogini. (2023, October 22). ''Compassion in Hinduism: A path to spiritual enlightenment''. https://www.rajayogini.com/post/compassion-in-hinduism-a-path-to-spiritual-enlightenment</ref>
==In psychology== From the perspective of developmental and positive psychology, kindness has been considered a state of being that reflects inner emotions and attitudes, and is manifested in behaviors and dispositions in the way one relates to others and oneself. It is a multidimensional construct that developmentally evolves, shaped by cognitive development, personal and interpersonal factors and social contexts. As individuals mature across childhood and adolescence, their understanding and expression of kindness become more complex, reflecting growing social and relational awareness and competency.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Jiang | first1=Xu | last2=Wang | first2=Yating | last3=Green | first3=Alyssa B. | title=Kindness in Children and Adolescents: Conceptualization and Interventions | journal=Encyclopedia | date=2025 | volume=5 | issue=4 | page=213 | doi=10.3390/encyclopedia5040213 | doi-access=free }}</ref>
A kindness model has been proposed that distinguishes between three core components of kindness: 1) kind emotions, 2) kind cognitions, and 3) kind behaviors. Each of these components can be other-oriented or self-oriented.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Malti | first1=Tina | title=Kindness: A perspective from developmental psychology | journal=European Journal of Developmental Psychology | date=2021 | volume=18 | issue=5 | pages=629–657 | doi=10.1080/17405629.2020.1837617 }}</ref> Kind emotions refer to emotions of sympathy, empathy, and respect (other-oriented), or feelings of ethical guilt over wrongdoing or pride after acting in line with one’s ideals and ethical principles (self-oriented).<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Ongley | first1=Sophia F. | last2=Malti | first2=Tina | title=The role of moral emotions in the development of children's sharing behavior | journal=Developmental Psychology | date=2014 | volume=50 | issue=4 | pages=1148–1159 | doi=10.1037/a0035191 | pmid=24294881 }}</ref> Kind cognitions reflect an active process of understanding and integrating others’ perspectives into one’s own. Self-reflection is also essential to appreciate the relativity of every standpoint and synthesize various perspectives, which ultimately broadens the mind’s range and openness for new experiences. Both kind emotions and cognitions require mindfulness – the ability to observe and be aware of one’s own emotional states and thoughts as they relate to interactions with others.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Woolrych | first1=Ryan | last2=Sixsmith | first2=Judith | last3=Fisher | first3=Jenny | last4=Makita | first4=Meiko | last5=Lawthom | first5=Rebecca | last6=Murray | first6=Michael | title=Constructing and negotiating social participation in old age: Experiences of older adults living in urban environments in the United Kingdom | journal=Ageing and Society | date=2021 | volume=41 | issue=6 | pages=1398–1420 | doi=10.1017/S0144686X19001569 | hdl=2436/623588 | hdl-access=free }}</ref> Kind actions that are other-oriented include simple acts of helping or comforting another person, or more complex prosocial behaviours such as sharing with or being inclusive of discriminated people. Self-oriented kind actions include self-caring behaviours. The more each of these components are learnt and practiced as part of everyday life, the more power they will have to transform the self.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Malti | first1=Tina | title=Kindness: A perspective from developmental psychology | journal=European Journal of Developmental Psychology | date=2021 | volume=18 | issue=5 | pages=629–657 | doi=10.1080/17405629.2020.1837617 }}</ref>
Research suggests that kindness has both hedonic and eudaimonic benefits for an individual. Humans are a prosocial species, and while prosocial behavior is enacted to benefit others, several studies have shown that doing so improves the wellbeing of the actor in addition to its intended recipient.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Regan | first1=Annie | last2=Margolis | first2=Seth | last3=Ozer | first3=Daniel J. | last4=Schwitzgebel | first4=Eric | last5=Lyubomirsky | first5=Sonja | title=What is Unique About Kindness? Exploring the Proximal Experience of Prosocial Acts Relative to Other Positive Behaviors | journal=Affective Science | date=2023 | volume=4 | issue=1 | pages=92–100 | doi=10.1007/s42761-022-00143-4 | pmid=37070008 | pmc=10104999 }}</ref><ref>{{cite journal | last1=Kumar | first1=Amit | last2=Epley | first2=Nicholas | title=A little good goes an unexpectedly long way: Underestimating the positive impact of kindness on recipients | journal=Journal of Experimental Psychology: General | date=2023 | volume=152 | issue=1 | pages=236–252 | doi=10.1037/xge0001271 | pmid=35980709 }}</ref> Acting in a prosocial manner feels good, and the hedonic rewards of doing so suggest a potential mechanism for how kindness may be encouraged and maintained. Adults who spend time volunteering report lower levels of depression and greater happiness than non-volunteers.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Borgonovi | first1=Francesca | title=Doing well by doing good. The relationship between formal volunteering and self-reported health and happiness | journal=Social Science & Medicine | date=2008 | volume=66 | issue=11 | pages=2321–2334 | doi=10.1016/j.socscimed.2008.01.011 | pmid=18321629 }}</ref> In an experiment, consumers who spent money on someone else were happier than those instructed to spend money on themselves, regardless of the value spent.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Dunn | first1=Elizabeth W. | last2=Aknin | first2=Lara B. | last3=Norton | first3=Michael I. | title=Spending Money on Others Promotes Happiness | journal=Science | date=2008 | volume=319 | issue=5870 | pages=1687–1688 | doi=10.1126/science.1150952 | pmid=18356530 | bibcode=2008Sci...319.1687D }}</ref> In another experiment, researchers randomly assigned employees at a workplace to either be performers or recipients of random acts of kindness. Multiple measures of wellbeing improved in both groups, and givers reported weaker depressive symptoms and increased satisfaction with both their jobs and their lives.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Chancellor | first1=Joseph | last2=Margolis | first2=Seth | last3=Jacobs Bao | first3=Katherine | last4=Lyubomirsky | first4=Sonja | title=Everyday prosociality in the workplace: The reinforcing benefits of giving, getting, and glimpsing | journal=Emotion | date=2018 | volume=18 | issue=4 | pages=507–517 | doi=10.1037/emo0000321 | pmid=28581323 | url=https://escholarship.org/uc/item/9t0213nd }}</ref> Prosociality may have eudaimonic rewards as well, as it has been shown to satisfy key psychological needs of the actor such as autonomy, competence, and relatedness.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Weinstein | first1=Netta | last2=Ryan | first2=Richard M. | title=When helping helps: Autonomous motivation for prosocial behavior and its influence on well-being for the helper and recipient | journal=Journal of Personality and Social Psychology | date=2010 | volume=98 | issue=2 | pages=222–244 | doi=10.1037/a0016984 | pmid=20085397 | bibcode=2010JPSP...98..222W }}</ref> In one study investigating the proximal and momentary experience of kindness, participants assigned to do kind acts for others reported a greater sense of competence, self-confidence, and meaning while engaging in those acts.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Regan | first1=Annie | last2=Margolis | first2=Seth | last3=Ozer | first3=Daniel J. | last4=Schwitzgebel | first4=Eric | last5=Lyubomirsky | first5=Sonja | title=What is Unique About Kindness? Exploring the Proximal Experience of Prosocial Acts Relative to Other Positive Behaviors | journal=Affective Science | date=2023 | volume=4 | issue=1 | pages=92–100 | doi=10.1007/s42761-022-00143-4 | pmid=37070008 | pmc=10104999 }}</ref> Other experiments have shown that being prosocial may lead people to feel more competent, more in control, and more connected.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Titova | first1=Liudmila | last2=Sheldon | first2=Kennon M. | title=Happiness comes from trying to make others feel good, rather than oneself | journal=The Journal of Positive Psychology | date=2022 | volume=17 | issue=3 | pages=341–355 | doi=10.1080/17439760.2021.1897867 }}</ref>
Studies at Yale University used games with babies to conclude that kindness is inherent to human beings.<ref>{{cite news|url=https://www.nytimes.com/video/magazine/1247467772000/can-babies-tell-right-from-wrong-.html|url-status=dead|title=Can Babies Tell Right From Wrong?, Babies at Yale University's Infant Cognition Center respond to "naughty" and "nice" puppets|work=New York Times (TimesVideo)|date=May 5, 2010|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20150712065555/https://www.nytimes.com/video/magazine/1247467772000/can-babies-tell-right-from-wrong-.html|archive-date=2015-07-12}}</ref> There are similar studies about the root of empathy in infancy<ref>{{cite news|url=https://www.nytimes.com/1989/03/28/science/researchers-trace-empathy-s-roots-to-infancy.html?pagewanted=all|url-access=subscription|title=Researchers Trace Empathy's Roots to Infancy|first=Daniel|last=Goleman|date=1989-03-28|page=C1|newspaper=New York Times}}</ref> – with motor mirroring developing in the early months of life,<ref>{{cite book|first=Daniel|last=Goleman|title=Emotional Intelligence|location=London|year=1996|publisher=Bloomsbury|pages=98–99}}</ref> and leading (optimally) to the concern shown by children for their peers in distress.<ref name="OK">{{cite book|first1=Adam|last1= Phillips|first2=Barbara|last2=Taylor|title=On Kindness|location=London|year=2009}}</ref>{{rp|112}}
Barbara Taylor and Adam Phillips stressed the element of necessary realism{{technical inline|reason=what is "necessary realism"?|date=August 2023}} in adult kindness, as well as the way "real kindness changes people in the doing of it, often in unpredictable ways".{{r|OK|pages=96 & 12}}
==In education== [[File: Fifty-fifty - something better than rolling Easter eggs (cropped).jpg|thumb|left|Two children sharing a soft drink at the White House, 1922.]] Kindness is most often taught by parents to children and is learned through observation and some direct teaching. Studies have shown that through programs and interventions kindness can be taught and encouraged during the first 20 years of life.<ref>{{Cite journal |last=Malti |first=Tina |date=2021-09-03 |title=Kindness: a perspective from developmental psychology |url=https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/17405629.2020.1837617 |journal=European Journal of Developmental Psychology |language=en |volume=18 |issue=5 |pages=629–657 |doi=10.1080/17405629.2020.1837617 |s2cid=228970189 |issn=1740-5629|url-access=subscription }}</ref> Further studies show that kindness interventions can help improve well-being with comparable results as teaching gratitude.<ref>{{Cite journal |last1=Datu |first1=Jesus Alfonso D. |last2=Valdez |first2=Jana Patricia M. |last3=McInerney |first3=Dennis M. |last4=Cayubit |first4=Ryan Francis |date=May 2022 |title=The effects of gratitude and kindness on life satisfaction, positive emotions, negative emotions, and COVID-19 anxiety: An online pilot experimental study |journal=Applied Psychology: Health and Well-Being |language=en |volume=14 |issue=2 |pages=347–361 |doi=10.1111/aphw.12306 |issn=1758-0846 |pmc=8652666 |pmid=34668323}}</ref> Similar findings have shown that organizational level teaching of kindness can improve the well-being of adults in college.<ref>{{Cite journal |last1=Datu |first1=Jesus Alfonso D. |last2=Lin |first2=Xunyi |date=June 2022 |title=The Mental Health Benefits of kind University Climate: Perception of Kindness at University Relates to Longitudinal Increases in Well-Being |url=https://link.springer.com/10.1007/s11482-021-09981-z |journal=Applied Research in Quality of Life |language=en |volume=17 |issue=3 |pages=1663–1680 |doi=10.1007/s11482-021-09981-z |s2cid=255275797 |issn=1871-2584|url-access=subscription }}</ref>
Schools flourish when its community is built upon norms of virtuous behavior – including kindness. Many schools around the world list kindness as a core pillar of their educational mission. Examples include Brighton College<ref>Brighton College (Singapore). (n.d.). ''Who we are''. https://www.brightoncollege.edu.sg/about-us/who-we-are/</ref>, Newton Prep UK<ref>Kindness UK. (2025). ''Kindness at'' ''Newton Prep''. https://kindnessuk.com/media/newton_prep_2025.pdf</ref>, United World College (South East Asia)<ref>UWC South East Asia. (2020, Desember 2). ''Words to live by: Putting our UWCSEA values into action''. https://www.uwcsea.edu.sg/community/points-of-view/2020-2021/words-to-live-by-putting-our-uwcsea-values-into-action</ref> and International School of Switzerland<ref>International School of Switzerland. (2026). Our K.I.N.D. teaching and learning philosophy. https://isswitzerland.ch/teaching-and-learning-philosophy-the-three-es/</ref>. It has been suggested that usage of the term kindness is prevalent in schools due to its relatability and accessibility for children. A social-cognitive approach to virtue emphasizes the importance of having a set of accessible mental representations (schemas) for expressing virtues. As revealed in a study with 4<sup>th</sup> and 5<sup>th</sup> graders, generosity, compassion and inclusion were most accessible and central to children’s kindness schemas, and may be ideal launching points for interventions. In contrast, scaffolding may be required when introducing more complex ideas of civility and gratitude as forms of kindness.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Warren | first1=Michael T. | last2=Braun | first2=Summer S. | last3=Schonert-Reichl | first3=Kimberly A. | title=A virtues approach to children's kindness schemas | journal=The Journal of Positive Psychology | date=2024 | volume=19 | issue=2 | pages=301–314 | doi=10.1080/17439760.2023.2170822 | doi-access=free }}</ref>
There is merit in further studying the development of kindness schemas during adolescence. In a study exploring how high school students conceptualized kindness in schools, a sizeable proportion of students defined kindness in a generic manner lacking in detail, and these vague responses suggested either a lack of interest or insufficient understanding of the concept. The modeling of prosocial behavior by adults in the school is an important pathway through which similar actions can be encouraged in students. Positive relationships with peers and teachers also serve as sites for the practice and cultivation of kindness. When high school students responded to why they might be reluctant to be kind, six notable themes emerged ''– popularity, negative influences, stigma/fear, poor treatment from others, family/home life problems'' and ''negative mood or mental health.''<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Binfet | first1=John-Tyler | last2=Godard | first2=Rebecca J.P. | last3=Green | first3=Freya L.L. | last4=Willcox | first4=Amelia A. | title=High school students' conceptualizations of kindness: A mixed-methods portrait | journal=Social and Emotional Learning: Research, Practice, and Policy | date=2025 | volume=5 | article-number=100089 | doi=10.1016/j.sel.2025.100089 | doi-access=free }}</ref>
A framework of “kind discipline” has been suggested as an alternative way to support students who misbehave and challenges educators to rethink their own beliefs around how to be kind at school. This approach shifts away from punitive systems and is grounded in fostering intrinsic motivation and positive relationships in schools.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Winkler | first1=Jennifer L. | last2=Walsh | first2=Michele E. | last3=De Blois | first3=Madeleine | last4=Maré | first4=Jeannette | last5=Carvajal | first5=Scott C. | title=Kind discipline: Developing a conceptual model of a promising school discipline approach | journal=Evaluation and Program Planning | date=2017 | volume=62 | pages=15–24 | doi=10.1016/j.evalprogplan.2017.02.002 | pmid=28242511 }}</ref>
The school curriculum can also be leveraged on to foster kindness. Educators can advocate for and include kindness-themed literature and class assignments that encourage students to reflect upon and enact kindness to others in the school or wider community.<ref>Binfet, J.-T. (n.d.). ''Kindness in school: Insights from students and teachers''. UNESCO MGIEP. https://mgiep.unesco.org/article/kindness-in-school-insights-from-students-and-teachers</ref>{{clear|left}}
==In literature== Kindness can be explicitly and implicitly developed through sharing and discussing stories presented in children’s literature.{{Cn|date=April 2026}} Readers of fiction tend to have better abilities of empathy and theory of mind.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Mar | first1=Raymond A. | last2=Oatley | first2=Keith | last3=Peterson | first3=Jordan B. | title=Exploring the link between reading fiction and empathy: Ruling out individual differences and examining outcomes | journal=Comm | date=2009 | volume=34 | issue=4 | pages=407–428 | doi=10.1515/COMM.2009.025 }}</ref> Psychologists at the New School for Social Research in New York, conducted a series of experiments to show that reading literary fiction enhances the ability to detect and understand other people's emotions.<ref>{{cite journal | last1=Kidd | first1=David Comer | last2=Castano | first2=Emanuele | title=Reading Literary Fiction Improves Theory of Mind | journal=Science | date=2013 | volume=342 | issue=6156 | pages=377–380 | doi=10.1126/science.1239918 | pmid=24091705 | bibcode=2013Sci...342..377K | hdl=11572/289277 | hdl-access=free }}</ref> In 1990, Dr. Rudine Sims Bishop coined the term “Windows, Mirrors and Sliding Glass Doors” to explain how children see themselves in books and how they can also learn about the lives of others through literature. Diverse stories provide children a window to feel someone else’s emotions or experience, and potentially opens them up to raw feelings of compassion for those who have been othered.<ref>Bishop, R. S. (1990). Mirrors, windows, and sliding glass doors. ''Perspectives: Choosing and Using Books for the Classroom'', ''6''(3), ix–xi. https://scenicregional.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/Mirrors-Windows-and-Sliding-Glass-Doors.pdf</ref> R. J. Palacio’s 2012 novel Wonder follows a boy with facial deformity entering a mainstream school and uses multiple perspectives to show how kindness affects an entire community. Its central message that choosing kindness inspires a chain reaction of good will toward others resonated globally across all ages and started the “Choose Kind” movement.<ref>Penguin Random House. (2017, October 30). ''Penguin Random House U.S. extends the Wonder brand with cross-company licensing campaign''. https://global.penguinrandomhouse.com/in-depth-stories/penguin-random-house-u-s-extends-the-wonder-brand-with-cross-company-licensing-campaign/</ref>
== In society == Human mate choice studies suggest that both men and women value kindness in their prospective mates, along with intelligence, physical appearance, attractiveness, and age.<ref>{{multiref2 |1={{cite journal|last=Buss|first=David M.|display-authors=etal|title=Sex differences in jealousy: Evolution, physiology, and psychology|journal=Psychological Science|volume=3|number=4|year=1992|pages=251–255|doi=10.1111/j.1467-9280.1992.tb00038.x |s2cid=27388562 }} |2={{cite book|title=Psychology|first1= Henry |last1= Gleitman|first2=James |last2= Gross|first3=Daniel |last3= Reisberg|edition=8th|isbn=9780393932508|publisher=W.W. Norton & co.|year=2011}} }}</ref>
The New Zealand the Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern believed that leadership should espouse kindness when she led the country through the COVID-19 pandemic, the Christchurch mosque shootings, and the Whakaari volcanic eruption.<ref>{{Cite news |last=McClure |first=Tess |date=2023-04-05 |title=Jacinda Ardern says leaders can be 'sensitive and kind' in farewell speech |url=https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/apr/05/jacinda-ardern-leaders-can-be-sensitive-kind-farewell-speech-new-zealand |access-date=2025-10-23 |work=The Guardian |language=en-GB |issn=0261-3077}}</ref>
==See also== thumb|2018 Women's March in Missoula, Montana *{{annotated link|Altruism}} *Be Kind to Humankind Week *{{annotated link|Compassion}} *{{annotated link|Empathy}} *{{annotated link|Generosity}} *{{annotated link|Good}} *{{annotated link|Good faith}} *{{annotated link|Moral character}} *{{annotated link|Moral emotions}} *{{annotated link|Reciprocity}} *{{annotated link|Pay it forward}} *{{annotated link|Random act of kindness}} *{{annotated link|Random Acts of Kindness Day}} *{{annotated link|r/K selection theory}} *{{annotated link|The Kindness Offensive}} *{{annotated link|World Kindness Day}} *{{annotated link|Greatness}} *Kindness Week (Canada)
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==Further reading== * {{Cite journal|last1=Brownlie|first1=Julie |year=2024|doi=10.1111/1468-4446.13128|title=How kindness took a hold: A sociology of emotions, attachment and everyday enchantment|journal=The British Journal of Sociology|volume=75|number=5|pages=753–768 |pmid=38922695 |pmc=11617809}} *{{cite web|url=https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/kindness-emotions-psychology/#|title=Forget Survival of the Fittest: It Is Kindness That Counts|date=January 2017|website=Scientific American|quote=A psychologist probes how altruism, Darwinism, and neurobiology mean that we can succeed by not being cutthroat.|first1=Dacher|last1=Keltner|first2=David|last2=DiSalvo}}
== External links == {{Commons category|Kindness}} {{Wikiquote}} * {{wiktionary inline|kindness}} * [http://www.kindnessuk.com/ A UK independent, not-for-profit organisation] * [https://www.randomactsofkindness.org Random Acts of Kindness Foundation] * [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L1Z-yU999LQ Video with quotes about Kindness], from Wikiquote
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