# Ask Me Again

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"**Ask Me Again**" was a 90-minute episode of the [PBS](/source/PBS) series *[American Playhouse](/source/American_Playhouse)* that aired on February 8, 1989.[1] Adapted from [Laurie Colwin](/source/Laurie_Colwin)'s short story *An Old-Fashioned Story*, the comedy starred [Leslie Hope](/source/Leslie_Hope) as Elizabeth Leopold, a young literary editor with a complicated relationship with her wealthy, snobbish mother, Elinor ([Cynthia Harris](/source/Cynthia_Harris)).

## Plot

As a child, Elizabeth Leopold finds Nelson Rodker, the son of family friends, hopelessly nerdy and annoyingly obsequious to adults. Elizabeth and her best friend, Holly, despise Nelson for the very virtues that make their upper-class parents admire him while despairing of his older brother, James, expelled from his fourth school and perpetually in trouble. When a teenage Nelson plays the word "[vugh](/source/Vug)" for 26 points in a game of [Scrabble](/source/Scrabble) the girls deride his knowing such a word and indignantly excuse themselves. They gossip over the news that the dashing James has been arrested and delight in adolescent fantasies about him. While waiting for Nelson to tutor her in trigonometry, Elizabeth encounters a nearly naked James, who drops his towel to discomfort her and pretentiously recites [poetry](/source/The_Tyger) to the impressionable Elizabeth.

Beginning their careers, the reluctant Elizabeth and Nelson resist the Leopolds' and the Rodkers' matchmaking. In a lower-class apartment, Elizabeth secretly dates her neighbor, the rebellious, [counterculture](/source/Counterculture) journalist Roy Howard. Unable to directly confront her domineering mother, Elizabeth perpetually makes excuses to avoid her manipulations and fashion dictates. On finding a new scarf in her handbag, Elizabeth remarks to Roy that her mom "is like a pickpocket in reverse--she slips expensive things into my bag".

The pressure to date increases when Nelson returns from a stint in the [Peace Corps](/source/Peace_Corps) to begin practicing law. The noncommitted Roy, only leaving a note, takes off on his motorcycle for a month’s assignment on [skinhead subculture](/source/Skinhead).

One awkward date with Nelson doesn’t appease the parents. Elizabeth tells Nelson that her ideal is someone “dangerous”; Nelson wants someone “happy.” When Elizabeth suggests pretending to date then staging a breakup to prove that they don't work out, Nelson reluctantly acquiesces. As they implement “the ruse”, Nelson chooses events that she would enjoy, such as a [play in French](/source/Tartuffe) by [Molière](/source/Moli%C3%A8re), that would never have occurred to Roy. Elizabeth begins to appreciate Nelson as a friend. Roy returns unexpectedly from his assignment during a dinner party with the Leopolds, and the dating ruse is exposed.

Elizabeth is promoted to associate editor for French literature at a Manhattan publishing house, but the self-absorbed Roy is oblivious to her career. She runs into Nelson on the street and tells him about her promotion. Nelson responds, "Assistant to Associate? That's a quantum leap!" Roy takes off for a venture in Central America for two or three years; they break up when Elizabeth declines to marry him and go along.

Nelson comforts Elizabeth, who is on a drunken binge over the breakup. Holly now decides she is interested in Nelson: Elizabeth protests, "Nelson is my problem!" Holly responds, "I don't consider him a problem, I consider him a prospect!" Her mother maliciously tells Elizabeth that Nelson is now better off with Holly and untruthfully says Nelson claims he only went along with the ruse at Elizabeth’s cajoling. Outraged, Elizabeth tells off Nelson for “blaming” her.

Confused by conflicting emotions, Elizabeth defiantly wears a provocative red dress to the Rodker’s Christmas party, attracting the disreputable James. James sweeps her away to an intimate bar, disillusioning her by getting drunk, whining, and rambling on about his stagnant poetic aspirations, hostility to society, and resentment of his parents and his “whimpy” brother, of whom he is jealous. Realizing that James has asked her out to annoy his brother, Elizabeth wishes to leave. Back at the party, James implies to guests in a loud voice that their absence was sexual, and rumors spread over the next week.

Upon hearing the gossip at a New Years Eve party, Nelson defends Elizabeth, punching out James. Alone at home nursing a cold, Elizabeth receives a visit from Nelson, who assures her that he and Holly dated once but didn’t enjoy themselves. He confesses that he came to tell her that he loves her and wants to know if she can love him. Elizabeth realizes that by shrewdly playing along to gain the adults’ trust, Nelson had achieved independence while she and James had been stuck in counterproductive defiance, not truly disengaging. As the New Year arrives, they kiss, though she warns he may catch her cold. He replies that he lives dangerously.

## Cast

[Leslie Hope](/source/Leslie_Hope) – Elizabeth Leopold [Robert Bruce](/source/Robert_Bruce_(actor)) – Nelson Rodker [Cynthia Harris](/source/Cynthia_Harris) – Elinor Leopold [Alice Haining](/source/Alice_Haining) – Holly [D.W. Moffet](/source/D._W._Moffett) – James Rodker [Jeffrey Nordling](/source/Jeffrey_Nordling) – Roy Howard [William Bogert](/source/William_Bogert) – Roger Leopold [Kathryn Hays](/source/Kathryn_Hays) – Harriet Rodker [David O’Brien](/source/David_O'Brien_(actor)) – Marshall Rodker [Robert Oliveri](/source/Robert_Oliveri) – Young Nelson

## Song

The title song, [George Gershwin](/source/George_Gershwin) and [Ira Gershwin](/source/Ira_Gershwin)'s "Ask Me Again", was recorded by [Rosemary Clooney](/source/Rosemary_Clooney) and [Michael Feinstein](/source/Michael_Feinstein) on the 1986 album *Mostly Mercer*[2] and included in [David Merrick](/source/David_Merrick)'s 1990 production of "Oh, Kay".[3] The lyrics include:

Ask me again/Who's the one I've begun to adore Ask me again/Who's the partner my heart pounded for

According to Gershwin biographer [Howard Pollack](/source/Howard_Pollack), Ira Gershwin thought the song was the finest of his unpublished songs.[4]

## Reception

Walter Goodman of *[The New York Times](/source/The_New_York_Times)* commended the "sleekly sleazy" portrayal of Nelson's naughty brother, James ([D. W. Moffett](/source/D._W._Moffett)),[5] while calling Elizabeth's parents' characters "grossly caricatured". Don Shirley of the *[Los Angeles Times](/source/Los_Angeles_Times)* found Elizabeth's change of heart to be unrealistic, claiming she would throw Nelson back into the dating pool in real life.[6]

## References

1. [""Ask Me Again" television show"](http://tv.yahoo.com/ask-me-again/show/2808/castcrew). Yahoo TV. [Archived](https://web.archive.org/web/20110517052028/http://tv.yahoo.com/ask-me-again/show/2808/castcrew) 2011-05-17 at the Wayback Machine. Retrieved 22 August 2024.

1. Various artists (1986). *Mostly Mercer* (LP). New York, NY: [Painted Smiles Records](/source/Painted_Smiles_Records). PS 1331.

1. ["Ask Me Again"](https://web.archive.org/web/20250124042150/http://greatamericansongbook.net/pages/songs/a/ask_me_again.html). *Cafe Songbook*. Archived from [the original](http://greatamericansongbook.net/pages/songs/a/ask_me_again.html) on January 24, 2025.

1. Pollack, Howard (2006). *George Gershwin: His Life and Work*. Berkeley, Ca: Univ. of California Press. p. 450.

1. Goodman, Walter (February 8, 1989). ["Review/Television; Inevitable Romance In 'Ask Me Again'"](https://www.nytimes.com/1989/02/08/arts/review-television-inevitable-romance-in-ask-me-again.html). *The New York Times*. Retrieved 22 August 2024.

1. Shirley, Don (February 8, 1989). ["TV REVIEW : A Very Bland Outing on PBS' 'Ask Me Again'"](https://www.latimes.com/archives/la-xpm-1989-02-08-ca-1958-story.html). *Los Angeles Times*. Retrieved 22 August 2024.

## External links

["'American Playhouse' Ask Me Again"](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0096835/?ref_=ttpl_ov). *IMDb*. Retrieved 23 August 2024.

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